Jess Hill, writing about power in her fantastic book on domestic abuse See what you made me do:
The capacity to show power and control is the standard by which men are measured: whether it’s their ability to master technology, run vast business empires, dominate discussion, rob a bank, or exhibit physical and emotional mastery. How and what they control doesn’t matter, so long as the create the impression of being in control.
And when this control is threatened, men lash out.
Amazing how one paragraph can say so much about the kinds of anger and abuse you can see in nerd communities. And why Silicon Valley loves stoic philosophy so much.